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PAIGE & PHIL: JUNE 3, 2006

Music plays.

Guests enter Playhouse and sit down. 

Family enters and sits.

Anderson Bowen family sits on stage in front benches.

SethG enters and walks to front.

Paige & Phil enter together and walk to front.

Paige & Phil stand together on one side, SethG stands on the other.

SG: Thank you for coming today. 

A wedding is a public declaration of love and a sharing of that love with close friends and family.  Paige & Phil asked us to be here today because each of us has (1) influenced them as individuals, and (2) shared in their relationship as a couple. 

We came to celebrate and to party.  But more importantly, we’re here to demonstrate to them our support for their union.  And we’re here to hold them accountable for the promises they’ll make to each other.  In return, Paige & Phil promise us to hold to their commitment and to use our support as they continue their lives together. 

Families are here, and communities are here.  To understand who we are, please raise your hand if you are part of…

  • Paige’s family
  • Phil’s family
  • the Heath Gang
  • the Grand Marais and North Shore community
  • the greater Ultimate community having played with or been coached by Paige & Phil

Thank you to everyone for being here to share this special, beautiful place on the Great Lake , to witness as Paige & Phil share their vows, and to celebrate the beginning of their new life together.

I am SethG.  The proverbial “friend of the couple”.  I went to college with Phil (and the Anderson boys) and have grown close to Phil and Paige over the last coupla years as I played Ultimate with Phil and visited the Anderson family compound.

I’m thrilled that they’ve asked me to be a part of their ceremony.  And a bit nervous—this is my first wedding, and when people ask me to name my top 5, or 105 skills, speaking in public usually doesn’t make the list.  But I’m happy to be here, and I’ll resist the advice of Phil’s old boss at the Angry Trout—Steve offered me a hundred bucks to start taking my clothes off right now, two hundred if I could get Phil and Paige to join me…

When I think of Phil I think of his quiet energy and focus. I think of his ability to “sit still and do nothing for a really long time”.  And when I think of Paige, I think of her ambition.  She goes after what she wants, and she accomplishes it.  But the best couples I know, my favourite couples, (and all I know are couples…) are “togetherly independent”—they aren’t alike in every way.  But they understand themselves and each other enough to trust each other completely.  They allow each other to be themselves.  And, like Phil and Paige, they don’t just accept; they truly treasure those things that set them apart.

Now, during much of their relationship, Paige and Phil have been apart from one another.  Maybe Phil was traveling, somewhere cold, pursuing his athletic dreams (which Paige actually realized, with two national championships to her name), or Paige was living in Chicago or Seattle or traveling through South America .  So now, finally, they’ll get to be together from now on…and, uh, mom and dad, I’m just sorry that that happens to be in Uganda


SG: Paige has chosen a reading by Dr. Suess called My Many Colored Days. A marriage is many things.  It’s the ups and downs, it’s the uniting of two families and the beginning of a new one.  Most of all, a marriage is a promise to stick it out through the thick and the thin, and an acknowledgement that even people as perfect as Paige & Phil can have their good days and bad.  And that’s OK.  The reading will read by the Anderson and Bowen families and will be accompanied by The Good Harbor Hill Players Mask and Puppet Theatre.

My Many Colored Days by Dr. Seuss

(Jim Anderson)Some days are yellow.
Some days are blue.
On different days
I´m different too.

(Betsy Bowen) You'd be surprised
how many ways
I change
on Different Colored Days.

(Bobbi Anderson) On Bright Red Days
how good it feels
to be a horse
and kick my heels!

(Jim Bowen On other days
I’m other things.
On Bright Blue Days
I flap my wings.

(Valerie Patrick) Some days, of course,
feel sort of Brown.
Then I feel slow
and low, low down.

(Brooke Anderson Saunders) Then comes a Yellow Day.
And, wheeeeeeeeeee
I am a busy, buzzy bee.

(Eric Bowen) Gray Day...
Everything is gray.
I watch.
But nothing moves today.

(Kyle Anderson) Then
all of a sudden
I'm a circus seal!
On my Orange Days
that´s how I feel.

(Jeremy Bowen) On Purple Days
I´m sad.
I groan.
I drag my tail.
I walk alone.

(Tait Anderson) But when my days
are Happy Pink
it´s great to jump
and just not think.

(David Grinstead) Then come my Black Days.
Mad. And loud.
I howl.
I growl at every cloud.

(Jim Anderson) Then comes a Mixed-Up Day!
And wham!
I don't know
who or what I am!

(Betsy Bowen) But it all
turns out all right,
you see.
And I go back
to being...

SG: Paige and Phil have a favorite song by Coldplay called Til Kingdom Come. Selected lyrics from this song will be read by their friend, classmate and teammate, Clay Preheim.

’Til Kingdom Come by Coldplay
Hold my head inside your hands
I need someone who understands
I need someone, someone who hears
For you, I've waited all these years

In your tears and in your blood
In your fire and in your flood
I hear you laugh, I heard you sing
I wouldn't change a single thing

And the wheels just keep on turning
The drummers begin to drum
I don't know which way I'm going
I don't know what I'll become

For you I'd wait 'til kingdom come
Until my days, my days are done
And say you'll come and set me free
Just say you'll wait, you'll wait for me.

SG:  The vows.  Paige and Phil?


Paige & Phil (together): In our marriage, I promise to care about everything.  The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things…all of it, all of the time, every day.  I promise that your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it.  Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.  I promise that we will always be a team, you and me.  I promise to be faithful, loyal, your biggest fan, and your best friend.  I promise to always be your greener grass.

SG: The Rings. (Brooke brings the rings)


Paige to Phil: This ring is a promise that I will always do my best to love and believe in you.  My heart will be your shelter; my arms will be your home.  With this ring, I give you your freedom and my trust in you. 

Phil to Paige: This ring is a promise that I will always do my best to love and believe in you.  My heart will be your shelter; my arms will be your home.  With this ring, I give you your freedom and my trust in you.


SG: Paige & Phil have each chosen to break a glass today.  This traditional ceremony carries many meanings.  For Paige & Phil, breaking the glass represents the fragility of relationships and is a reminder that marriage will change their lives forever. Wine held in the glass represents the joys and sweetness of life and marriage; crushing the glass represents the hardships.  It’s important to Paige & Phil that even during this time of celebration with family & friends, they remember that a marriage is a partnership that includes challenge, but is rewarded with happiness and a life together.

Paige & Phil each stomp on a light bulb (a.k.a. wineglass).


SG:Finally, we conclude with a monolog from one of Paige and Phil’s favorite television officients.

SG: Marriage. It's a hard term to define, especially for me; I've ducked it like root canal. Still, there's no denying the fact that marriage ranks right up there with birth and death as one of the three biggies in the human safari. It's the only one, though, that we'll celebrate with a conscious awareness. Very few of you remember your arrival and even fewer will attend your own funeral. You pick a society, any society: Zuni, Nudembo , Pennsylvania Dutch. What's the one thing that they all have in common? Marriage. It's like a cultural handrail; it links folks to the past and guides them to the future.

That's not all, though. Marriage is the union of disparate elements: male and female, yin and yang, proton and electron. What are we talking about here? Nothing less than the very tension that binds the universe. You see, when we look at marriage, people, we're looking at creation itself.

"I am the sky," says the Hindu bridegroom to the bride. "You are the earth. We are sky and earth united. ... You are my husband. You are my wife. My feet shall run because of you. My feet shall dance because of you. My heart shall beat because of you. My eyes see because of you. My mind thinks because of you. And I shall love because of you." Now are you guys cool with that?

Paige & Phil (together): We are.

SG: Then kiss.

Paige & Phil kiss.

SG: I now present to you Paige & Phil Anderson Bowen.